A "Redhead" said in another blog item that.. "I believe THAT is the biggest "male lie" on the Internet.....height."
It got me thinking, integrity overall and those white lies that the internet allows...
I assume the 80/20 rule in most things and have found this to be true with internet dating. e.g. 80% women 20% men are truthful and use integrity in their profiles...
So what are the common womens "white lies" compared to the mens...
I know an area of concern is size... so would bodyshape = average be one?
Any other obvious ones or experiences where the word doesn't match the image or action?
A "Redhead" said in another blog item that.. "I believe THAT is the biggest "male lie" on the Internet.....height."
It got me thinking, integrity overall and those white lies that the internet allows...
I assume the 80/20 rule in most things and have found this to be true with internet dating. e.g. 80% women 20% men are truthful and use integrity in their profiles...
So what are the common womens "white lies" compared to the mens...
I know an area of concern is size... so would bodyshape = average be one?
Any other obvious ones or experiences where the word doesn't match the image or action?
When it comes to photo's ages, I am very honest, even about my cats' age, in photos! Honesty is always the best policy, even if it means a certain amount of rejection, for being so. Being a liar, dishonest, to impress, may get more dates at first, but, ends up, in nowhere. If anyone out there, has been deceptive, you can change that now, and save yourself, and others, a lot of pain.
When it comes to photo's ages, I am very honest, even about my cats' age, in photos! Honesty is always the best policy, even if it means a certain amount of rejection, for being so. Being a liar, dishonest, to impress, may get more dates at first, but, ends up, in nowhere. If anyone out there, has been deceptive, you can change that now, and save yourself, and others, a lot of pain.
I've met about a dozen ladies through another site and one so far from this site and fortunately, no time wasted on anyone that was dishonest about their stats or pics. Some women's profiles have been removed from this site since I became active 2 months ago - they tended to have unrealistically cute pictures. I appreciate SimplyLovely's challenge to be wary and responsible.
Please report any suspicions to support@tallfriends.com
I've met about a dozen ladies through another site and one so far from this site and fortunately, no time wasted on anyone that was dishonest about their stats or pics. Some women's profiles have been removed from this site since I became active 2 months ago - they tended to have unrealistically cute pictures. I appreciate SimplyLovely's challenge to be wary and responsible.
Please report any suspicions to support@tallfriends.com
I dont find too many outright lies, but sometimes people are a little bit careless and leave 5 yr old pics, or stretch their height an inch...
Short acquaintances have made a couple of funny remarks, when I told someone I was 6'3 1/2" they said if your that tall what does a 1/2 inch matter? Another refers to me as "That guy whos about 6 or 7 feet tall"
I dont find too many outright lies, but sometimes people are a little bit careless and leave 5 yr old pics, or stretch their height an inch...
Short acquaintances have made a couple of funny remarks, when I told someone I was 6'3 1/2" they said if your that tall what does a 1/2 inch matter? Another refers to me as "That guy whos about 6 or 7 feet tall"
allurable - integrity is lacking these days. I've heard from men that women lie about their weight/size, and photos taken when they were a smaller size. Also, smoking and drinking... listing occasional when in reality it's frequent for either vise.
waldoette - I believe I met him! or a few of the thousand other men on these dating sites that say they're something they're not. Here's my take on why those 5'10"-5'11" men do this... because if you look at women's profiles, most put their preferred height starting at 6'0". One great "lie" is the big flirting that happens to gain someone's attention via email. For some women it's competition, but for me I'll wait for the guy who sees through that. The sad part is those lies show just how "needy" those men/women are to feel they need to embellish to be something they're not. Oh, the internet lies! ...and the search goes on.
allurable - integrity is lacking these days. I've heard from men that women lie about their weight/size, and photos taken when they were a smaller size. Also, smoking and drinking... listing occasional when in reality it's frequent for either vise.
waldoette - I believe I met him! or a few of the thousand other men on these dating sites that say they're something they're not. Here's my take on why those 5'10"-5'11" men do this... because if you look at women's profiles, most put their preferred height starting at 6'0". One great "lie" is the big flirting that happens to gain someone's attention via email. For some women it's competition, but for me I'll wait for the guy who sees through that. The sad part is those lies show just how "needy" those men/women are to feel they need to embellish to be something they're not. Oh, the internet lies! ...and the search goes on.
...if we could only look like the glamour photos all of the time...I enjoy the glamour shots as long as some regular pictures are included in the profile so I can get a general idea of what a person really looks like.
...if we could only look like the glamour photos all of the time...I enjoy the glamour shots as long as some regular pictures are included in the profile so I can get a general idea of what a person really looks like.
Ahhhh yes, the 6' myth. I can not tell you how many men have said they are 6' and when I arrive in flats and they in from sneakers to biker boots, I am still taller. Yes, I stretch a little to say I am 5'11", more like 5' 10 1/2 - 5' 10 3/4", but the nurses never seem to be able stand on something to put the metal bar down on my head. Then the man says he is average. Average beer gut. He says he works out a few times a week. He works his elbow at the bar. How about that picture with the really nice dark hair? Yup, he shows up as full fledged gray haired man. Yes, I have flaws and up front with them. But I think my biggest problem is when a guy says he doesn't mind driving the distance and a month or two go by and I am still sitting at home waiting for a date that never happens.
Ahhhh yes, the 6' myth. I can not tell you how many men have said they are 6' and when I arrive in flats and they in from sneakers to biker boots, I am still taller. Yes, I stretch a little to say I am 5'11", more like 5' 10 1/2 - 5' 10 3/4", but the nurses never seem to be able stand on something to put the metal bar down on my head. Then the man says he is average. Average beer gut. He says he works out a few times a week. He works his elbow at the bar. How about that picture with the really nice dark hair? Yup, he shows up as full fledged gray haired man. Yes, I have flaws and up front with them. But I think my biggest problem is when a guy says he doesn't mind driving the distance and a month or two go by and I am still sitting at home waiting for a date that never happens.
Red, I completely agree. Once you meet the truth comes out. I think it's about insecurity and someone not really liking who they are. I dated a guy who lies and spins stories about everything. He's not happy with himself as he constantly tries to paint himself in a better light and he would think nothing about tearing you down to "build" himself up. It's rather funny, I found his profile on a dating site and he has now put his age at 37 (he's 41), he lists his height at 6'0" (he's 5'10 or 5'11" at best) and he lists himself as athletic build (he's average with a bit of a beer belly). You're right Red, those white lies are easily found out, but it doesn't matter because no good relationship starts with a lie. I just wish those men wouldn't waste my time and energy.
Red, I completely agree. Once you meet the truth comes out. I think it's about insecurity and someone not really liking who they are. I dated a guy who lies and spins stories about everything. He's not happy with himself as he constantly tries to paint himself in a better light and he would think nothing about tearing you down to "build" himself up. It's rather funny, I found his profile on a dating site and he has now put his age at 37 (he's 41), he lists his height at 6'0" (he's 5'10 or 5'11" at best) and he lists himself as athletic build (he's average with a bit of a beer belly). You're right Red, those white lies are easily found out, but it doesn't matter because no good relationship starts with a lie. I just wish those men wouldn't waste my time and energy.
This isn't so much about internet lies but about the fact there is so much more to us than what we can fit into a tiny box. We have to make a choice about what we say. I had spent a lot of time writing a really nice profile and then decided it was too personal (because I am ususally really open!) and chose the shorter route hoping that if I did get to chat with the person they would figure out that there are many deep, soulful things about me. It is hard to explain a "way of being" on a site! So my point being that some of us tend to leave out all the juicy details to savour and share for later.
This isn't so much about internet lies but about the fact there is so much more to us than what we can fit into a tiny box. We have to make a choice about what we say. I had spent a lot of time writing a really nice profile and then decided it was too personal (because I am ususally really open!) and chose the shorter route hoping that if I did get to chat with the person they would figure out that there are many deep, soulful things about me. It is hard to explain a "way of being" on a site! So my point being that some of us tend to leave out all the juicy details to savour and share for later.
Hi Allurable, My take on "little white lies" is these represent areas in our lives where we aren't quite sure about ourselves and embellish just a bit in an attempt to make ourselves more acceptable to others.
Hi Allurable, My take on "little white lies" is these represent areas in our lives where we aren't quite sure about ourselves and embellish just a bit in an attempt to make ourselves more acceptable to others.
I really appreciated your 5'14" comment as I am a "tall" woman who often tells people that I am 5'12". I lose most people in saying this, but some are quick to catch on. (I found in highshcool days it was taboo for a female to be "tall" so it was the best way to poke fun at the situationl
I really appreciated your 5'14" comment as I am a "tall" woman who often tells people that I am 5'12". I lose most people in saying this, but some are quick to catch on. (I found in highshcool days it was taboo for a female to be "tall" so it was the best way to poke fun at the situationl
